The past couple of parenting years have been a bit of a struggle for me.  Going from one very easy-going child, to having a second who is the total opposite, has been something I’ve had to figure out along the way. On top of that, moving to a different state after being settled and comfortable, had it’s challenges, too. I’ve been frustrated more times then I’ve been joyful.  And I really don’t like that feeling.

For 2016, I chose a new phrase for parenting (and my life’s journey): Be positive!  I know there is going to be struggles, “. . . In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33  Parenting is not easy and there will always be something new that will be challenging.  But I have chosen to let go of the things that are out of my control, I have fallen on my knees and leaned into Our Father, and I have prayed for guidance with so many decisions.  I have seen answered prayers and hearts changed already.  I feel more free to love and stress has been lifted from my shoulders.

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I have expressed many parenting worries to one of my best friends, Abby.  She always reminds me that no matter how much I love my children and how much I want the best for them, God loves them more. And that is so true.  I can just rest in that assurance and be positive that God has already taken care of my children’s needs before I even ask.

Another important parenting goal for me this year (and always), is to teach my children the love of Jesus.  If they know his love for them, I believe everything else will fall into place.  My children will make better decisions, they will love and be loved, they will forgive and receive forgiveness, they will be respectful and receive respect, they will give all to God and God will give everything in his plan to them.

And lastly, but certainly not least.  I always want to extend grace to my children.  Because I know I need the same in return.  After each time out, I get down to my child’s level and look them in the eye. They offer apologies and I always forgive.  Because there have been times when I’ve made mistakes and I needed their forgiveness, too.  Without a second thought, they always forgive me.

This then is how you should pray: ” ‘Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.  Give us today your daily bread.  And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.  And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.’  For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.  But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:9-15

I hope you’ll follow along on my parenting journey this year.  And I would love to hear your parenting goals for 2016!  Share them in the comments below or link up with us at Mommy Monday!

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8 Comments on Imperfect Positively Grace-filled Parenting

  1. Rose-Marie
    February 1, 2016 at 7:50 pm (1 year ago)

    What a cute picture! and parenting is not an easy job, and with faith and God's help, you know you are doing the best you can.

    • Mandi
      February 2, 2016 at 12:18 am (1 year ago)

      Thank you, Rose-Marie! I love this picture too. I don't know what I would do without the guidance and love of God.

  2. Karen Weido
    February 2, 2016 at 1:54 am (1 year ago)

    I also have an easy-going first child, and a wild, wild boy for a second one. It is a struggle every hour of the day. Positive is always a goal of mine as well, but such a hard one to accomplish at times. But isn't it just the sweetest when they apologize! Melts my heart.

    • Mandi
      February 2, 2016 at 2:18 am (1 year ago)

      I'm so glad someone else gets it! It's definitely my biggest struggle at times. Oh yes, their apologies are so precious.

  3. Rachael Fernandez
    February 2, 2016 at 7:24 am (1 year ago)

    I look forward to reading along with you on your journey. Stopping by from the Link-up (mommy monday)

    • Mandi
      February 2, 2016 at 7:30 pm (1 year ago)

      Thank you for stopping by Rachel! I look forward to you joining me!

  4. abigail fehr
    February 3, 2016 at 12:28 am (1 year ago)

    What a good reminder to give grace to our kids too. They deserve no less and learn from our example! Definitely working on this! Thank you for sharing!

    • Mandi
      February 4, 2016 at 12:36 am (1 year ago)

      Yes, our kids learn mostly by our example, for sure. It's a work in progress for me as well.


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